Questions
“Sometimes questions are more important than answers.” ~Nancy Willard
What do you do when you find out your entire adult life was based on a lie?
What do you do when you realize that your life is essentially useless because you built it around the aforementioned lie?
What do you do when you know you did your best, but your best simply wasn’t good enough?
How do you erase the memories which are now tainted?
How do you work on building a new life when it’s all you can do to hold together the basic scraps of your old one?
How do you find hope (again) after it is lost (again and again)?
How do you stop questioning things that cannot and will not be answered?
“When is a crisis reached? When questions arise that can’t be answered.” ~Ryszard Kapuscinski
solarisgal said,
December 31, 2007 at 2:08 am
Well, it’s going to be 2 years for me since my husband left, and this is the way that I’ve answered the questions
What do you do when you find out your entire adult life was based on a lie?
Start living today for the future! Set goals, cherish the past but hold the future with more importance.
What do you do when you realize that your life is essentially useless because you built it around the aforementioned lie?
I start to change my way of thinking instead, and realize that one person will NOT make me or my life for that matter. (that’s just giving one person far too much power, and that I will no longer allow. It is time to grow and restructure my life for me!)
What do you do when you know you did your best, but your best simply wasn’t good enough?
I start to question – and who’s the judge? My cheating wandering husband? Certainly not. I deserve to give my best to someone else.
How do you erase the memories which are now tainted?
Time heals all wounds. Hopefully, my cherished memories will be replaced with better ones.
How do you work on building a new life when it’s all you can do to hold together the basic scraps of your old one?
It’s hard, but it’s certainly doable. I have set goals and I am working towards accomplishing them. By the time that I finish, I will not be anywhere near where I was when he left.
How do you find hope (again) after it is lost (again and again)?
I like to quote from the movie, Shawshank Redemption: “Let me tell you something my friend. Hope is a dangerous thing. Hope can drive a man insane.” But….
“Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies.”
How do you stop questioning things that cannot and will not be answered?
Quite frankly, you may never get your answers – I never did. So there’ll come a time when you’ll just say, “Note to self: Let me store these questions in the back of my mind and retrieve them – like a puzzle, once I find the answers” I think that there will come a time when we’ll find the answers , and then ask the questions again to make them fit.
When is a crisis reached? When questions arise that can’t be answered.”
Oh yes, I will not undermine you – it is a crisis – but this crisis – like everything else, both good and bad, will have its end.
gayle said,
January 1, 2008 at 10:19 pm
You move forward – one day and one step at a time. Just get through the hour, day, week and things will look better.